I’VE been meeting my best friend’s husband for nights of wild sex although I’m married too.
I’m 27 and so is my friend. We grew up together, we went to the same schools and we even went out with the same boyfriends at different times in our teens.
Her husband is 26 and we had some history together, going back to when we were in our late teens. We split up when he cheated on me.
My friend met him afterwards and she started seeing him and they got married two years ago. We did have one last drunken fling before they got hitched but I told him it had been a mistake because he was committed to her and I didn’t want to be the one splitting them up.
I’ve been married now for three years. I still see my friends and I’ve always felt the spark was still there between him and me – but I’ve never acted on it.
My friend had a knee operation recently – she runs marathons – and I drove over to cheer her up. I arranged to stay over as she lives 30 miles away.
We had a few drinks but as she was on medication, the drink went to her head. She felt so tired so she went up to bed. I was just going up to bed myself when her husband came home from the pub.
We chatted away like old times really but then he said he felt his relationship with my friend wasn’t going so well and he looked very sad. I hugged him and told him he’d be OK, but then he brought my chin up to his and we kissed.
The kiss led to him touching me all over. My senses came alive and we felt like teenagers again. We got totally carried away and had sex on the sofa.
We text all the time now and meet up when we can. It all feels so passionate to me, and by the way he holds me and caresses me, I think his feelings for me are genuine too.
Now I can’t stop dreaming of him. Our messages have gone from simple flirting to talking about moving in together and declaring our undying love for each other.
I trust him more than anyone else in the world – even my husband. I’m now questioning my marriage and whether I love my husband or not.
I think I’ve found my soul mate but if we come out and tell everyone what we have together, it comes at a massive price.
Your lover will be easier to resist if you keep in mind this is all about him and his ego. He made a heavy play for you but, if you were together, would you ever feel able to trust him? Will he always be looking for casual fun? He cheated on you before and now he’s at it again.
Of course we still see people as attractive after we’re married but that doesn’t mean it’s OK to cross the line. Don’t throw away a good marriage for a silly crush.
You will be vulnerable to straying if you’ve let your relationship with your husband slide.
Take a step back and analyse what you have with this guy and what you have with your husband.
If you got into the dating game again with your husband like you did when you first met, would you be able to enjoy the thrill of the chase again like you did with your lover?
I’m emailing you my leaflet called Looking After Your Relationship which should help.